Go Divorce Clinic is the best choice for divorcing couples that have children. I’m just simply not aware of anywhere that I would even suggest or want people to go if they have children in a divorce than my office. I just had a couple last night that came in for a divorce. I always do a gut check with people that are on the threshold or believe they’re on a threshold to divorce when they have children because nobody’s going to speak up for the children because they can’t for themselves. So I do. The way that I do that is to make certain that, [A] the parties actually are on a threshold to divorce based on an irreconcilable circumstance.
Many people come into my office and believe there are irreconcilable circumstances, and it may not necessarily be that. It may be a communication issue. It may be just some dynamic that’s been going on that they haven’t been able to work out, even in counseling. I advocate for children and the whole space for them is to make certain first and foremost that their parents actually need to divorce. And we have a discussion about that, an honest discussion.
Secondly, if the divorce process has to go through, their needs are at the top of the list. I remind my clients always, we’re doing this for our children. We are making sure that each parent isn’t left out on the lurch, isn’t exploited, isn’t hurt, isn’t abandoned. That we’re going to try to take care of each other as best we can in this situation because ultimately when we care for each other, in the tearing down and the breaking down of the marriage, that if we care for each other, we’re caring for the children.
There is a theme that’s woven through the disillusion process that I translate to the clients that we’re doing what’s in the best interest for the children always. I know of no other place that does that, that will risk doing that, risk losing clients for standing up for what’s in the best interest for children. I absolutely will. I’ll risk whatever it takes to make sure that the kids are taken care of in these contexts.
The question of what separates me from other service providers in family law… It’s a big one, and let me just hit a few of the highlights.
One of the biggest things is “the space” that is created here for people to come as a couple and sit down together to… And dissolve their marriage. This is not an adversarial context which is the environment that they’re going to find in a family law office or even in a mediation office. It’s assumed that these are adversarial contestants, pitted against each other in those other spaces and in those other environments and those other service providers.
Go Divorce Clinic has changed all of that. This is a place where even if you’re not getting along, even if you feel like you don’t want to sit in the same room with the other person because you may be so hurt or bitter, one or the other or both, that you actually can. When you have facilitator that understands that, and that can hold a space for that, and can keep everybody safe and grounded, then you have an environment where those parties can work together and cooperate and dissolve their marriage in a way that’s not going to destroy them or their resources, or even more importantly, create a toxic environment around their relationship with each other that translates to their children, that they have to co-parent with in the long run.
What are the difference in costs between a Go Divorce client and the average divorce process where that’s lawyer assisted?
Average cost of divorce in the United States is well over $40,000. This is an average cost for lawyer-assisted. Average cost here in California even locally for a mediated divorce, is going to be somewhere between $6,000 and $15,000. That’s if everything goes really, really smooth.
Go Divorce Clinic, flat fee. That we know what you’re going to get, you know what you’re facing, and I think almost ironically, they’re getting a much better product. I’m actually offering what no other service provider in family law at a much less cost. The reason why I do it is because I can, and it’s about as simple as that. I really have no interest in exploiting an industry to that I can get rich. I get by, I do fine.
My vision and my goal and what really makes me excited, is changing the way a business is conducted, and in this case family law, and taking care of human beings that have needs in a way that is healthier, better, and is going to contribute to life. That’s my abundance. I don’t need to charge and exploit people to achieve that end.
How is the process at Go Divorce Clinic different than traditional divorce?
That’s a really good question. Many people are surprised when they come in to see how easy it is. I have clients all the time, and they’re walking out the door after a few weeks, and we’re done, and they’re saying, “I didn’t know this could be this easy”. Not that divorce is easy, and we both know that’s not what they’re talking about. It’s just they didn’t know that it could actually be handled and taken care of this quickly without so much work.
How does the process work? Basically clients come in initially for an intake where I answer all their questions – that’s a fee-free consultation. If they contract with me, they send me, through the email the intake information I need. I generate a marriage settlement agreement. Each party comes back one more time to sign the paperwork, and that’s it for them.
The rest is handled by our office in terms of filing it, the dates at the appropriate time, handling all the paperwork, and doing the service. Other than that, the client’s participation is done. So that’s what my clients mean when they say, “I didn’t know this could be so easy”.